When you are on constant alert for triggers and are constantly trying to manage the environment, it's not surprising that your own mental health/anxiety might be affected.
I find that on the rare occasions George isn't with me, I am still constantly scanning the horizon for triggers and if a see a cyclist or a dog, my heart rate immediately spikes. We're constantly told that dogs pick up on your anxiety but changing your emotions is easier said than done!
It's really hard to be alert and vigilant to your environment and yet keep calm. I'm trying to work on my body language - trying not to tighten the leash when I see a trigger, trying to keep my leash shoulder low and loose, trying not to stiffen my body. It's a work in progress!
Something that really helped me was when my parents visited and put everything in perspective. They told me how well he is doing and how hard he was trying. They told me not to worry about what other people think (see Dealing with the embarrassment). I do now (mostly) feel differently about his reactions which helps take the pressure off.
It can be overwhelming and exhausting when your dog is constantly reacting at home and won't settle. I have found it incredibly helpful to connect with people who are experiencing similar challenges.
This Facebook group is so lovely and supportive - Fearful & Anxious Dog Support Community by Dogkind - the nicest group on Facebook!
For separation anxiety, this is a fantastic group: Dog Separation Anxiety Support with Julie Naismith.
The 3 daily wins approach helps prevent my mind from only focusing on the negative. Humans can be predisposed to negative bias. I am trying to make a conscious effort towards positivity.
I try to make time for myself if I can, even if it is only 10 minutes before daycare pick-up or a rare overnight stay so that I can have an evening out. I greatly value the emotional support from family and close friends.
I know more help is out there if needed (GP, counselling, friends etc). It can be really hard!
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